Comments on my horoscope, the personality thing

Ok so I am very bored right now, trying to get some work done .. so now that I don´t have anything to do I just googled some personality horoscopes. These have always somehow fascinated me, I don´t know what it is but most people I know are very similar to their own horoscope and the personality description and I have a lot of the traits that my description says.

Ok so first of all I am a cancer, heh yes I know, one of the toughest nuts to crack :-P

I´ll quote the description in red and put my comments below:

Cancer is the fourth sign of the astrological year and is known by its astrological symbol, the Crab. Cancer individuals are intelligent, organized, generous, home-loving, and tenacious. They are also devoted to family members and provide enormous emotional support.

Have you met a Cancerian woman recently? Are you a little confused as to what she really is - chirpy, somber or distant? She is all of these and still, she is none of these. Even more confused? A Cancerian woman has mood swings every now and then and these are only a few of her mood swings. However, her basic personality traits remain the same. She is very sensitive, emotional, kind and caring. Now's the catch! Most of her traits will be hidden behind a shell of indifference and aloofness, breaking which will require quite a lot of effort.

The Cancer woman has a strong maternal instinct and the desire to make her home a place of domestic bliss. They have great loyalty to family members and close ties to their mothers. They also have a large circle of friends and associates. The typical Cancer woman looks beyond her career or home-centered activities to find interests through which she can contribute to others.

hmm, mood swings? yes, I can go from happy to angry in 0,2 seconds :-D but there is always a good reason for that though, it´s not like I do that without any reason at all. The shell thing, yes I sign this off and put my stamp on it, it´s completely true.

You will have to gently coerce a Cancerian girl to get out of her shell and come into the big bad world without it. The best time to do this is in the moonlight, when there are maximum chances of catching her in her true emotions. When in love, she will be tender, womanly, timid and modest. She dislikes criticisms, can't stand rejection and gets deeply hurt by harsh words. Too much aggressiveness on your part may make her a little hesitant. She loves her mother, so you better learn to love as well as respect her too.

haha, funny that the moonlight thing is there because it´s completely true :-D ok so here is the first thing that is different about me than the description says, I don´t hate criticism , I actually welcome it, I can stand rejection and im good at licking my wounds off. Harsh words can hurt anyone, the thing to remember is always how to say something negative to anyone, this doesn't just concern cancerians I think this goes for any human being.

A Cancer woman will never make the first moves in a relationship; she only knows how to move backwards or sideways. This is because of two reasons, her shyness and her fear of being rejected. This female has some secrets and she won't like you prying around her personal diary. She is very insecure and will need your constant reassurance. It doesn't matter if she is the current 'Miss Universe' or has men drooling over her all the time, it is your attention and appreciation she would be the most concerned about.

Nope, this part isn´t true. I actually have made the first moves in the past, not always but sometimes ;) I am not insecure but the reason must be that I have gotten past that, I used to be insecure but life taught me to let it go and trust yourself.

You will have to learn to live with a Cancerian woman’s mood swings, which is not so difficult since she is so good in every other way. She is extremely loyal and will keep you happy with her warm and rich humor. Once she is committed to you, she will remain yours forever and ever. Adultery is not one of her traits. With a Cancerian woman, you will always have to be careful with words. She is very sentimental and can get hurt very easily. Then, she can cry like a 2-year old baby and you will be expected to console her and wipe her tears.

Yep, im so damn good :-D and this part is true. NOTE I cry often when watching sad movies or cartoons :-D

A Cancer female is a great cook and makes better food than a 5-star hotel chef. She is quite careful with money as well. Neither will she be stingy, nor totally extravagant. She has a habit of saving everything that is usable, be it money, old buttons or empty jars. She also saves things that have a sentimental value attached to them, like the sweater grandmother knitted on her fifth birthday. A Cancer female fiercely guards what is hers and that includes you too! However, she is not too possessive or jealous. But, she does not like sharing her love too.

She is one of those people who do not crib about bad luck. She will get depressed and may shed a few tears alone, but she will be patient and wait for the time to change again, this time in her favor. Almost all the Cancerians have the desire of being pampered like a child, especially when they feel low. Don't forget to pay your Cancer girl extra attention when she is depressed, otherwise she may retreat deeper into her shell. And then, it will be very difficult to bring her back to her normal self.

True. Just that I don´t get depressed easily. Pampered like a child? uhm yes, if it means a lot of hugs and kisses :)

 She will want to be told time and again that she is still desirable and you still need her. However, she is not weak and is completely capable of looking after herself. In fact, she is one of those who sacrifice all that they have, for their loved ones. She just needs some spoiling after every few days. A Cancerian woman may be fragile as far as her feelings are concerned, but when you need her, she will be as strong as the 'Rock of Gibraltar'. She will also be very protective of her children and make them feel completely secure.

Kids will be the center of her universe and she will pamper them with her love, affection and care. The children will also be very close to her and no matter how much far they go from home, they will come back to her and she will know this. A Cancer female always needs you, but she will never get too aggressive. She knows that you may leave for a while, to follow your dreams, but in the end, she is the one you will come back to. Then, you will find her as charming as before, waiting for you with freshly baked bread and hot soup. She will feed you, listen to your worries and make you smile again! Need anything more?

Yes true nothing much to add to this one except for the following part  She will want to be told time and again that she is still desirable and you still need her. -> Who wouldn´t want to hear that from time to time?

This one was very close except for the early emotional separation part about kids and the food thing and I don´t spend, this was based on my b.-day 13th of July ( I was born on a Friday. think about it :-P are you able to figure out the year? )

July 13 Cancers have a charismatic personality that complements their gentle soul. They have a fear of change yet understand that it is only through change that they are able to discover their true nature. They realize all experience is a rite of passage toward spiritual transcendence.

Friends and Lovers

Despite their intelligence, July 13 natives often choose the wrong people to be their friends and lovers. On the face of it, that's not good, but they may learn lessons that can help them later in life. They love with a true heart yet sometimes feel forced to compromise.

Children and Family

July 13 individuals may spend the major part of their lives trying to come to grips with their background. With their own children, they may experience an early emotional separation. This is because they are likely to encourage youngsters to make their own choices and decisions from an early age.

Health

Good health undercut by poor habits characterizes July 13 natives, who dislike monitoring their diet. Although they usually have an active enough lifestyle to avoid putting on weight, they may be denying themselves much-needed nutrients. It's more beneficial for them to indulge in an exercise program on a daily basis.

Career and Finances

July 13 folks do well in professions where they must deal with people one-to-one. Their magnetism makes them both likable and believable. They do especially well in sales positions. Money matters can be complicated for them. They either spend beyond their means or have trouble maintaining a steady income. Fortunately, the acquisition of money isn't one of their primary aims in life.

Dreams and Goals

July 13 natives have high ideals, and they're anxious to fulfill them. If they can influence others positively through their words or actions, they feel as if their fondest wish has come true.

Motherhood, giving birth & womanhood

Now, just to start this out. if you don´t want to know about motherhood in general or you don´t want to read about giving birth move on :)

This morning it suddenly hit me when I looked at my precious, beautiful baby boy.. It was only 5 years and 4 months ago when I first saw him and how big he has gotten all of a sudden. All that love filled me right up and I really started to think about my son, his future, everything he has accomplished and experienced so far and my own motherhood, how it changed me and connected me to something I would call primitive in myself...

Let´s start with the experience of giving birth .. It was the most emotional, wonderful day I have ever experienced. I wouldn´t trade that day to anything, ever. I feel so humble that I was able to do it.
The day started out with pain and a visit to the doctors office and by noon I was having contractions, by 7 that night I was at the hospital laying in a hot bath..

and no I didn´t want any medication. I´ll explain why. First i´ll start by saying that  I think every woman makes the decision for themselves and even if I didn´t have medication I think it´s perfectly fine for a woman to take an epidural if she need´s it. For me, the choice was easy, I have always trusted my body completely, I trusted my body then too, I thought that I would stay better connected to the whole experience through it without medication and I definitely wanted my body to be able to react and tell me what to do.. guide me even through it since I believed that my body would tell me where I am at and what to do, and it did. They tried to even force me to take an epidural because I started bleeding in the middle of the night, I didn´t want one instead I had these grain filled hot bags on my back and I concentrated to every contraction breathing, listening, it was like a wave that came every now and then telling me that the birth was closer and each time it passed I subconsciously smiled knowing that every time the wave was over I was closer ( I went to the hospital at 7 24.4.2008 and my son was born the following morning on the 25th and I didn´t sleep at all during that period because I wasn´t able to ) and wouldn´t you know it, when the time came I really could trust my body to function as it has been designed from the dawn of the human race, when the time came I gave into the whole experience listening to what my body wanted to do.  I cannot explain it, it was a fantastic experience all in all.

I think that giving birth is the moment that an inner goddess wakes up inside of every woman, something so ancient and beautiful comes alive, it´s a moment where every inch of your inner self is fully conscious and aware of it´s surroundings, your senses are tuned to perfection and you are tied down to a line of women before and after you that have been through the same thing.. it´s hard to explain but it truly is a celestial experience even with the pain and blood and all. If you aren´t scared of a little pain I recommend to every woman to try and do it without the meds. I didn´t feel pain when the time came to give birth, hell, that was the moment I had been waiting for throughout the night, I was so happy that I was able to finally do something. That point was an unbelievable experience, I was so tired because I didn´t have any sleep during the night but I found an amazing pool of strength inside of me when I knew that it´s time to see my son ( I didn´t know it would be a son at the time though ) 9 minutes after discovering I still had strength my son was out and 10 minutes after that I was crying because I was so happy, relieved and moved by the beauty of my own child. Oh I still can remember what my son smelled like, the first time he stopped crying when he was moved onto my breast and he heard my voice and recognized it. the way I wasn´t able to fall asleep the following night because I just wanted to stare at him sleeping and I wanted to hold him beside me in the hospital bed, laying there, feeling so complete, feeling so overwhelmed by the love I felt ( and still feel ) for this little human being. My road as a mother started then and the best thing that ever happened to me was becoming a mother and the best thing in my life is being a mother :)

When I was a kid and even when I was a teenager I wasn´t bothered or interested in feminine things.. at an early age my blond locks were cut ( my mother wanted to keep my naturally blond and curly hair long ) because I got to decide for the first time. I didn´t care for dolls, I rather went outside with the boys to have water fights and go to an amusement park or dig in the dirt building castles and all sorts of other interesting, not-so feminine things :) I was tomboy to the bone ( I still am in many ways, If I would have a daughter I wouldn´t know what to do during the "princess period" little girls usually have). In my late teen´s I finally discovered my own womanhood, I started getting into make-up and the whole dress thing. I think im still a tomboy to some extent because I am not afraid of "dirty" work, if I am at a friend´s house enjoying a nice evening I rather sit with the guys playing videogames, playing poker or monopoly or watching a movie than sit with the girls talking crap behind back´s and talking about fashion etc. I feel totally out of place with the girls usually :-D Don´t get me wrong tho, I have a massive feminine side to me as well :) It just doesn't manifest as short skirts or revealing clothes or in any way of overdoing it so to speak.. Now this is another point I just have to mention. Why do some women want to show everything and dress like that? I don´t mean they shouldn´t but I just don´t get it. I have always relied on my charm and personality and I have not had a need to put on some revealing clothes on to get attention as a single woman in a club for example, according to  my experience you just need a magnetic stare and a smile and a confident appearance to do the same thing and sometimes it´s even more effective that way. all in all the point here is that I love being a woman with it´s up´s and down´s. there.. I am done for today :-P

Anti-Feminist.. comments on the youtube video

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vkIiIaXcal4


Ok.. well I was speechless for a while after this video.. Had to gather myself for a while and now I just have to comment on this :-D

First of all I have to start with the "women were not educated they were stupid" comment she said. Uhm. well most women didn´t have the option to go to school in the similar fashion that guys had but that doesn't mean they were stupid back then, women knew a lot and yes back then they mostly ran the household and the man was the one who carried the cash home, secondly she talks about 1950´s and then about 1916, yes sweetheart you definitely don´t have all of the facts right.. I wonder what her educational background is?

The second part . fantasy about being a housewife.. ok all good probably suits you and there is nothing wrong whit it if that´s your ultimate goal in life. BUT I on the other hand think that women are capable of combining these things and it doesn't mean you are a feminist. Firstly I have a son, I also have a career a successful one I might add and yes, I do cook and clean too and I do make myself look pretty as well, all a matter of getting your schedule together ( I also have free time and I also spend a lot of time with my son ) and my son is clean and has clean pretty clothes on. oh and I loooooove to cook, I cook every day because I want my son and I want me too to eat home cooked food cause I don´t like the taste of the "tv" dinners and it´s not as healthy as something you cooked yourself from fresh ingredients. "can you imagine if that´s all you HAVE to do in your life, that would be exciting". What on earth would you do if you would end up being divorced and left with the kids? no job, no income, no provider, no assets ( except a good wardrobe full of short dresses ) I am proud that I am able to provide for me and my son and I don´t need to pay a lot of cash for handymen etc. and I don´t need a man just for the money.. I think a relationship is about feeling safe, having someone who you can talk to without being judged, someone to hold and kiss when you go to bed and generally someone to share your life with without the wall´s that the society forces you to put up for certain situations  :-O ..........................

Third part.. the one about men being the providers.. ok let me get this straight. 1. You want to stay at home? you want to make yourself look  pretty? ( sounds like money "well spent" to me :-D ) and you want the man to be the provider.. If a draw a fast conclusion from this.. you want to spend a shitload of cash and exceed the credit card limit and your husband has to pay for all of that with the money he worked his ass off for?? I would never marry or date a man because he is filthy rich, oh hell I know people like this and honestly I think those people do not have any self control or a sense of honor in them. I am proud that I am able to provide my son, I am proud that I don´t have to go around asking or smooching guys for money, I am proud that I have a good income, I am proud that I have a career and even if I would have a rich bf for example I wouldn´t still want him to be the sole provider of the family because I believe that if you are together, you work for a common goal and you work together for the money, it doesn't matter if the other one has 9 million for example versus your 3500 eur salary per month, you still work for the income, the both of you.

Oh and why on earth do you find yourself constantly paying for something for the guys? you are contradicting yourself here :-D if you would have a guy that would provide for you he would find himself constantly paying for your stuff :-D either way I think it goes both ways.. "they are always going to be like that" :-D *fell off the office chair*

Fourth point, ok now here is something we agree on, finally.. I don´t like feminism either because it doesn't work towards the fantastic goal of equality. I believe that men and women should have same right´s. For example here in Finland single dad´s are still frowned upon and dad´s who complain about women that are abusive towards their kids aren´t taken too seriously by the social services so these kids have to suffer at the hands of their mom´s instead of getting to live with their dad who wouldn´t abuse them. oh and there is a lot of stuff that aren´t equal to the sexes but still the finnish system has gotten better and I would love that there would be full equality between the sexes. I am extremely thankful to my brothers who taught me from an early age how to change tires, how to  fix my bike, how to do the other stuff that many women can´t do and their men have to do it.. I can fix broken pipes ( small problems tho) etc. and I am proud of it because that means I am independent and I really am.

about the statistics .. "women are bad drivers" actually did you know that according to the 2012 European statistics the gender of the people who had the most lethal crashes was male? probably you didn´t ..

"women shouldn´t go and put Christmas light´s or shelves" uhm , why? I've done both.. many times "or pump gas" well.. what do you do if you are out of gas and you need to get some? get a dude to do it?! :-O I would love it if my man would cook for me? it´s romantic and thoughtful. Many men are actually good cooks.. oh and if you have ever read a recipe book or watched shows like Masterchef or Hell´s Kitchen or just regular shows teaching new recipes.. most of the most rewarded cooks are men.


God.. I think I am left speechless again.. please tell me it was satire?

as a side note.. I don´t understand why you have to dress up so that you are basically revealing everything.. I can be sexy with my clothes on too ......... so there, this is my weird rambling for today..

Ignorance & Intolerance, labeling people

uh.. so annoyed right now.. some things / people push my buttons in the wrong way

I hate labeling above all because I sincerely think that it´s powered by ignorance, intolerance and plain stupidity and the lack of empathy or social skills. I have been labeled all my life to different categories by different reasons. I don´t understand why people just have to stick a label on someone´s forehead "you are this and I made that judgment by your cultural  background / by one song I heard you listen to / after meeting ONE of your friends / by seeing your face " I HATE IT!! Why is it so hard for people to accept the different aspects of one´s personality and background ?

Let´s take music for example. When I was 10 years younger, I was labeled automatically as a goth.. well there might be some aspects to me still that are influenced by the gothic culture, in my music taste, my looks, some of the clothes I wear but when people perceive you as a goth for example somehow they automatically judge you when you suddenly have a business suit on and you are listening to let´s say Jimi Hendrix people automatically wonder if you have turned into something else.. well uhm NO. this would be just another aspect of me. Let´s continue with this music things for a while, I love music in it´s many wonderful forms and categories, I might wake up in the morning and dance to Michael Jacksons You Rock My World around my kitchen and when coming to work I might switch to Lamb Of God´s Redneck ( this would be a good song to fit my current mood actually ), I've never denied any genre or artist from myself because that would limit who I am and I would be labeling myself. Music is a big part of my life and will always be, I listen to trash, gothic rock, soul, blues, RnB, Jazz, rock, speed metal, etc.. that´s why I own approx. 1000 CD´s :) and the collection will be growing as long as I live oh and as a side note, yes I know you can stream anything online nowadays but I love collecting the CD´s because I want to support artists in the best way I can and I also want to go through the booklets and have the cover art and everything :)  Yes, I love mosh pit´s but I love to do some hip hop dance as well. I might be on the dance floor in a club or at a metal festival enjoying some jumping or sometimes, even a wall of death :)

back to the subject, you should get to know the person with that persons several aspects and accept the fact that people have different sides to them rather then forcing an automated label on them. I have been labeled in so many ways during my life and the example I gave about music is probably the smallest label.

Now, background, heritage and cultural differences. I hate racisms and all sort of discrimination. People come in all colors, sizes and shapes and I personally think that´s one of the most wonderful things in the  world, if I would take a picture of all my friends and me, we would probably cover the full set of the color pallet :-D but that´s the way I love it. Having people from different heritages around you really helps you to grow as a person and I see life as a school. I hope to graduate one day :-P It´s sad that after we´ve been on this planet for this long we, humans are still the scum that inhabits this planet when it comes to this subject. all forms of discrimination is destructive, not only to the people who has to suffer from it but to the one discriminating as well and usually these petty individuals understand that when it´s too late IF they ever understand it before their own demise. I´ve been labeled and discriminated because I have a fenno-scandinavian background, yes, the ghostly skin color can also be a fuel for racism. the most memorable comment I have ever heard about my skin color is when I was a kid and met a lady that came to our school for a visit with a larger group to study the finnish way of studying english (  my English teacher wanted me to talk to her to convince her that finnish kids can speak English as well )  immediately when she saw me the first comment was: " oh, I've never seen anyone who is so pale in my life" she turned to my teacher and asked him " it must be a disease? " Nowadays I would have just returned the favor by asking her what kind of mental disease is she suffering from but when I was a kid it really hurt me especially since my self-confidence was already at it´s lowest.

So as a conclusion, try to keep your mind open and you can actually learn and develop yourself further and you´ll be more comfortable in your own skin ..

Now.. the idea starting my blog at blogger is that MySpace somehow managed to hide all of my posts when creating the new MySpace.. and I need a place to write :-D yes I know, would be better to shut up.. but I won´t, I've always been stubborn like that :-D

So anyways, if someone ever read my MySpace blog they know I wrote a whole lot of posts of stuff that we discussed at the coffee table at work.. and here I go again a post about something discussed at work this morning.. see I usually continue to think about some of the stuff even after I have had the discussion while drinking my morning coffee.

The topic of the day is : fans

Note the kind that you can put on your table to cool you down tho :-D this is about people loving people, sometimes too much.

Now, I am a fan, a huge fan of many musicians, artists etc.. BUT the fact that I just don´t get even when I try my very best to understand it, why do some people love .. well for example Justin Bieber so much that they are ready to get pregnant with his kid without even knowing the dude well ( JB came to mind because we were talking about his show in Fin and how the girls went berserk when he was here and basically were ready to do ANYTHING to see him for 2 seconds ). I mean it´s fantastic to say your are someones fan.. but for me it basically means that I respect and love and enjoy something they create and respect the person in their own field. I don´t get the hysteria though, these are just people too, not god´s or goddesses or something above these two things. I´ve met many of my fav. musicians for example during my life but it´s just like talking to a normal person.. guess why? newsflash THEY ARE normal people too. They get hurt, they laugh, they probably cry, they enjoy themselves, they go to the toilet, they need sleep and they need food and water too. The special thing about these people in my mind is that they are amazingly good in their own line of work, that´s something to respect :)  I mean I have worked my entire career to be really good at what I do and so have they .. I don´t have a fan club though :-D ok well not in the extend that a musician would have for example.

If you go to a gallery to see paintings of a famous painter, do you go around screaming so loudly that the windows break and cry so hard that your eyes get swollen shut? nope.. you probably don´t.. so  in my mind that is a  full comparison to the hysteric reaction that a fan get´s when they meet JB for example.. and isn´t acting like that a wasted opportunity to actually talk to the artist? get a few comments of the show directly from them? or a wasted opportunity of telling them how much you appreciate the products of their souls for example? in my mind it is.. I rather talk to people than scream :-D but then again.. I've never been hysterical about another person.. crazy about them yes.. but not hysterical.. so as a conclusion.. I must be the most boring "fan" on this planet :-D