"You are the only one who can affect what you will be and how you develop yourself" Welcome to my world :-D
ok so this one started out from a convo I had with a classmate yesterday about organizing your life. Let´s start with saying that the dude I had the convo with is a conservative "old-fashioned" guy.
Ok so I've went through my point on smooching on someone else in the anti-feminist youtube thingie post and im standing by everything I said in that one. so let´s go on to having a career, basically this can be seen as a part 2 to the older post.
I have a career which I am very proud of and I will develop myself to get further. Some people have the very out dated view on a woman having a career and a child. For me it´s easy to balance between the two rules because even though I am a mother I don´t want to forget myself completely. I have and I will push my own goals further to be a good mother and a good support for my boy until he is old enough to start pursuing his own goals and even then I won´t fade away, I will be his pillar when he needs me. See I don´t see having a career as something that is hindering me to be a good mother, I see it as a source of a good income to be able to build a solid financial ground for me and my boy.
Secondly, I am someone who thrives to go further in life. It could be something that stems from the fact that when I was growing up I was told that I am not able to be anything because of my background and I wanted to prove them that an apple can actually fall damn far from the tree :-D This one did :-D anyways the more important reason for me to build a career is the fact that in Finnish society we are having a trend of the government raising the retirement age and if it continues to be raised in the same speed, my generation will fall on the battleground with their boots on, meaning that we will not see one day of retirement UNLESS you can build a solid ground for income, save up and retire earlier on. That is one major reason for me.
Also I have a firm pride in my professional capabilities and I take pride in the way I have built my career. Money is unfortunately something you need to have in order to pay for your bills etc. I am not saying I will be a millionaire one day ( well who knows :-D maybe I will ) my only target is a get a financial solid ground and build a foundation that can help me and my son forward in this life and secure a good future.
Ok so now we get to the actual point where this subject started from. It just doesn't fit into my head that some people still in this day and age think that a woman should be a stay at home mom and basically stay at home taking care of the kids and keeping the house clean and making herself pretty and cook.. hmm guess what? even though I am a self proclaimed career mom I take care of my son, cook, clean and take care of myself. I just made a choice myself not to be a stay at home mom, instead I am building a career as well. Me, personally I don´t see pa problem in it. Also don´t get this the wrong way like I would judge someone who wants to be a stay at home mom because I am not, it´s totally up to every woman to decide that and think about what works the best for them, the things I dislike is that people judge me for my choice because I am stepping out of the traditional mold of a woman with a kid. People take as their goal to judge my decision without knowing the backgrounds and without even knowing what my son actually thinks about all of this, the people that are the most eager to judge do not even know me up close and personal. now again, "round and round we go" -> why judge when you even haven´t checked in the mirror?
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